My short piece "Do the Labels Matter?" is in the Gay Chicago Magazine this week (June 11, 2009). Because I'm being considered for a monthly column (called "Feminist Thoughts"), they haven't given me a section for the online version; therefore, I can't link to it. But since it would only be there for this week, you might as well look at the PDF. I'm on page 11.
Things I would add? "Queer" does have a history of being an epithet, but it also means different. What's wrong with being different?